Part XVII: Quién es esa niña?
"Whose that girl?" -Madonna 10/1/21
A few entries back, it was mentioned how our society bases value and credibility upon how many likes and/or followers we have acquired. A number, based on the imagery of perfection.
Now here we are. Absorbing damaging information and alarming facts; The Wall Street Journal broke word reveled by internal documents that Facebook is harmful to (teenage girls) self esteem. That mental health is on a collision course due to the the struggles of constant perfection being pushed into our psyche. We all know this. We all knew this. We all ignore it. We all ignored it. We all continue to participate in it and yet, where do we go from here?
It's time to unplug.
We need to start embracing and celebrating all that our journeys have to offer. It's not always going to be picture perfect, but isn't a picture worth a thousand words?
Part XVI: With great power comes great responsibility
"All at once, summer collapsed into fall." -O. Wilde 9/1/2021
Another summer is coming to a close. This summer was supposed to be a summer like no other but September is here. Fashion week, the September issues and yet the streets of New York City feel more like a holiday weekend; Quiet. Along with not being 24/7 anymore, it's just different. While we all navigate our individual normals, a topic that has perked my ears is what it means to have a platform and a social media presence in the modern world we are in. Conversations on what it means, what responsibilities should be had, and when it is time to stop following.
Depending on your "pandemic", there are still an exuberant amount of individuals still looking for work, behind on bills, wondering what tomorrow is going to bring yet, continue to have hope that help is on the way. In times like these, following an "influencer" who has taken vacations, flouted social distancing, has an income that equates to wealth that could solve hunger issues, lives in a palatial set up and yet, complains. Complains about how hard it is to be stuck in their homes, not having a normal vacation, being a prisoner on acres and acres of land. When is enough enough?
Why do we continue to support and look up to individuals who don't do anything for society except take and expect more?
At this point in the game, it's time to start unfollowing this toxic "influence" and start looking at those that are trying to make a change and help. What ever that may be in your eyes, we need to start helping and supporting each other. We need to start embracing the human experience and start living it, before it's too late.
Part XV: Summers almost gone.
"Where will we be, when the summers gone." -The Doors 8/1/2021
As we continue to grow and navigate through the new world, the beauty industry continues to shift what tomorrow might look like. One thing is for sure, the hesitancy to normalcy is becoming a new wave of thinking. With this new wave, what is trending in the hair world is more manageable natural hair without loosing your style or your identity. Embracing your roots, embracing natural highlights and dabbling in the shades and hues of coppers. Such an exciting time to experiment with something new! While we cannot control the world, we can start to try and regain control of ourselves while embracing our individuality. Let's grow and continue to put our best forward. It's a new day and summer is almost gone.
Part XIV: Summer time time time.
"I would like to be remembered as a person who wanted to be free... so other people would be also free."-R. Parks 7/1/2021
An article circulating recently is that of a hairdresser who charged $2400 for a cut and color make-over (and they still managed to get some lightener on the guests shirt). The question at hand; was this client ripped off or not. As part of the masses were focused on "canceling" this hair artist, others came to their defense.
"This shouldn't have taken 13 hours," "this is a rip off," "this is overcharging" etc. With the before and after pictures showing an amazing transformation, why has it come to fruiting that hair artists need to defend their worth when it comes to their craft? It takes years of dedication, continued education and (at least) a year of commitment of time and money to receiving your cosmetology license.
This was a corrective color service, this was a service that can not be fixed with a little color over it, trim and on your merry way. For those that think they can do it cheaper or themselves, then go for it! Good hair isn't cheap and cheap hair isn't good. When you discount yourself and go to a discounted hair coiffure and don't get the the results you wanted, you end up paying more to fix it.
Instead of attacking someone (is it jealousy?), maybe try asking " why do you charge the way you do". If you are in the chair of an honest cosmetologist, transparency will take over and an explanation will ensue as to why a licensed professional service can come at a cost.
Part XIII: June's in bloom
"June is the gateway to summer." -J. Hersey 6/1/2021
New York city is finally getting its groove back. The streets are starting to bustle and our chairs are getting busier. With this new outlook and the vibes that are following, you might be feeling like you need an all over change, refresher or inspiration; along with a much needed vent session when returning to your stylist. After the set appointment time, your look is finished, you tell your stylist you love it/thank you, check out and go on your merry way. You get home, see a friend, take a photo and realize, you HATE it. What do you do?
First let me address that this is the worst feeling for both parties. Our intention as hair designers is not to make you unhappy, we wouldn't be in this industry if we weren't people pleasers.... ask your stylists how many holidays/events/occasions they have missed to accommodate the needs of the industry.
First thing you should do is call and ask to speak with your stylists. First thing you shouldn't do is call and ask to speak with you stylists to then verbally attack them over the phone. (We want to help you, but this does not help the situation. We know you are upset, this is our work, we are upset too.) We are human, mistakes are made but we, as professionals, do have policies in place for corrections/adjustments/redo's. We want you to come back to us so we can fix our work; we want you to be honest as we are honest with you. If you are not comfortable returning to the said stylists, ask to see someone at the same salon and if you are ok with it, have the other stylist present so they can be shown how to achieve your requested look. If you are truly at a point that you just want to forget it all and move on, then yes, ask for a refund but note, this does not mean you should go on all your social media outlets and trash this person who has tried to appease the situation. If you are wanting this "move on" option, then hold your word to it. If the professional has given you options to help, you shouldn't take that and be malicious with it.
When it comes to a service with an unhappy outcome, it can come down to a few things; expectations, reality, photo comparisons, maintenance, money, rushing the professional, first time client, long time client, filters, at home rituals, identity, no consultation (I consult with every client, no matter how long they have been in my chair), jumping from professional to professional (no consistency) and apprentice stylists vs stylists expectations.
I did leave one example out but am going to put it down with caution but we are being honest right? Though this last one is rare, there are clients who are so hard or unable to please that you (both professional and guest) may want to ask yourself, "Is this worth it for both parties?".
Part XII: May Day!
“Another May new buds and flowers shall bring: Ah! why has happiness no second Spring?-C.Smith 5/1/2021
Spring is springing here on this day of May in New York City. As we continue to creep back into a version of "normal", something in the world of beauty really caught my attention.
I am starting to see more and more "body inclusivity" and "real beauty" campaigns starting to gain some traction. Our attention is leaning further away from curated beauty to organic unedited unfiltered feeds of what our new day looks like.
If we are now focusing on things like "real beauty" concepts, why are we still valuing likes and followers to some sort of self worth? A like validates the brain just enough to release some good feeling chemicals yet that is supposed to impress to the extent of self worth? When are we really going to start normalizing it to be ok to be you? Is a picture worth a thousand words?
The first step for all of us is to start with ourselves and know that beauty does not have a definition or a one size fits all look. Then maybe, just maybe, we could share and harness that power to really make some change.
Part XI: April Fool's
“Aprils have never meant much to me, autumns seem that season of beginning, spring.” -
Do you ever wonder why your hair color doesn't look as vibrant or rich or cool in some lights? Where are you spending mot of your time now?
I have been getting requests and questions on how to enhance hair color due to noticeable dullness / lack of vibrancy while on zoom. (One day we will look back on this and go "remember zoom?") One way to correct this without asking your colorist to change your formula is to adjust your lighting while on zoom. Ring lights can make a huge difference but if you want to use what you have, get creative and take time to see which light and where look best. Another option is an at home toning conditioning rinse to use frequently to keep the color as fresh as possible in between appointments. A favorite range of mine is Davines Alchemic Systems. (Please advise if you want to achieve the best results, the shampoo must be used with the conditioner). Finally, ask your colorist to enhance what you are wanting to see more of. Know that we are not always around a filtered image so be advise that this also might come with additional at home and in salon rituals.
Part X: 1-800-273-8255
“When you're surrounded by all these people, it can be lonelier than when you're by yourself. You can be in a huge crowd, but if you don't feel like you can trust anyone or talk to anybody, you feel like you're really alone.”
TRIGGER WARNING:SUICIDE AND MENTAL HEALTH:
This post talks about suicide and mental health. If you or anyone you know ifs suffering from depression or suicidal thoughts please call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline @ 1-800-273-8255.
Depending on where you live, life has it's moments and stressors. Not sure about you, but living thought a pandemic has really brought to light some thought provoking conversations in the chair. As a hair coiffure, we tend to be the third party that our clients rely on to talk to. Sometimes about really heavy topics; sometimes light and sometimes nothing at all. I recently came across a list of (one of many) "things your hairdresser wants you to know or not do," kinda of tag line. I could give commentary on numerous points that other hair creatives have mentioned but one took me by surprise.
"You don't have to talk. You don't have to be silent. Just know that we are stylists first and not necessarily therapist. If you tell me you are suicidal, I'm not equipped to help you with that. We have a good chat. I can tell you about my struggle and you can tell me about yours, but really talk to someone who actually knows how to help and deal with that. It can be a very hard things for us to hear, too" (no name is needed)
Fact. We live in a world that being a hairdresser is more than doing hair. We have access to numerous platforms to better ourselves to understand the "I'm not equipped to help you with that" response. Sometimes what sets apart a hairdresser from a therapist is the pice tag. Maybe, this stylist could've stopped to consider, "is this a cry for help"? Mental health is so in the fore front of our daily lives now. It is not something we have to suffer alone. Yes we have to navigate through some major real life things but this person is not only in your chair paying you, but sees you as a friend. Think about it. If someone is trusting you with their image, don't you think at some point in your hair story together that life just gets too real and your guest is trying to relate? Can they afford therapy? Trying to not feel alone?
Sometimes it breaks down to this, a cry for help can be in many forms; sometimes as hairdressers nothing seems off limits in our chats. Know this, the person in your chair trusts you. As a hairdresser, it's an honor to build these connections and build such trust. Our craft for what we do for our guests is more than just a hair appointment.
If you or anyone you know ifs suffering from depression or suicidal thoughts please call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline @ 1-800-273-8255.
Part VIIII: Lather, Rinse, Repeat
"My favorite thing about New York is the people, because I think they're misunderstood. I don't think people realize how kind New York people are."-B.Murray 2/1/2021
The city is slowly starting to stir. It is more in the winds with their cold sting. Not sure about you but I am so over wearing masks however, as the new normal presses on one thing is for sure, masks are here for a little while longer. If you are experiencing the dreaded "maskne", myself included, two things work best for me and continue to work. With the help of these products, this is my once a week skin savior to help me continue to prevent my maskne flare ups. (Please note, if you are following any dermatologist regimens please consult before adjusting to anything recommended.) Exfoliate and hydrate. This is my mantra though this journey of clear skin. As a once a week nightly ritual, use your favorite facial exfoliant followed by a moisture rich face creme, lotion or serum of choice. One of my favorite combos is Lush Ocean Salt face and body scrub followed by Glossier Priming Moisture Rich. With the sooting affects of sea salt followed by that extra kiss of skin comfort from the lavender, this has been my lifeline. As we continue to continue, one thing is for sure, there are worse things than maskne, but I hope this helps.
Part VIII: As strong as an Ox
"Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year."-R.W. Emerson 1/1/2021
Happy New Year.
Part VII: Dear Diary,
"Tomorrow is gonna be a brighter day."-C. Stevens 12/31/2020
If your 2020 Experienced:
Happiness, Pride, Petrified, Possessive, Adoration, Enthralled, Pride, Fat, Distracted, Employed, Excitement, Addicted, Dopey, Peace, Satisfaction, Acceptance, Affection, Lean, Joy, Compassion, Adoration, Desire, Interest, Provoked, Wanted, Unemployed, Grateful, Jubilant, Love, Humble, Contentment, Empathetic, Amusement, Appreciative, Confident, Optimistic, Exhausted, Cheerful, Carefree,Sweet, In-between, Kind, Loyal, Lust, Gladsomeness, Goofy, Inspired, Enchanted, Poor, Ethereal, Funny Friendly, Relief, Poor, Calm, Sensual, Awe, Warm, Romantic, Aware, Comfortable, Free, Courageous, Hopeful, Fascinated, Manic, Tender, Proud, Relief, Eager, Dispirited, Innocent, Insanity, Addiction, Sexy, Understanding, Patient, Surprised, Craving, Wonder, Amazed, Longing, Foolish, Mellow, High, Sentimental, Anew, Low, Focused, Determined, Fearful, Grieved, Distracted, Baffled, Needy, Lost, Self-pity, Pessimistic, Giddy, Crafty, Flirty, Hysteria, Withdrawal, Worried, Abandoned, Doubtful, Frazzled, Sorrow, Curious, Guilt, Apologetic, Horrified, Beautiful, Overwhelmed, Nervous, Homesick,Full, Anxious, Terrified, Cautious, Terrified, Panicked, Alienated, Challenged, Jealous, Neglected, Ugly, Fraud (feeling like a), Stressed, Agony, Empty, Shock, Depressed, Desperate, Confused, Alone, Tense, Hopeless, Weary, Uneasiness, Tense, Sympathetic,Suspicious, Paranoid, Reluctant, Skeptical, Sulkiness, Horror, Sadness, Unhappy, Hungry, Emptiness, Misery, Grateful, Abused, Merry, Somber, Foolish, Festive, Grim, Mourned, Objectified, Exploited, Forgotten, Hated, Abashed, Wanderlust, Aching, Insecure, Apathetic, Defeated, Pity, Submissive, Lonely, Heartbroken, Depressed, Wornout, Glum, Cowardly, Gloomy, Hurting, Disappointed, Tired, Melancholy, Lovesick, Leftout, Resigned, Miserable, Shy, Vulnerable, Yearning, Nostalgia, Remorse, Pensive, Reclusive, Protective, Dismay, Distress, Anger, Annoyed, Bitter, Frustrated, Dislike, Spite, Uncomfortable, Cold, Bitter, Infuriated, Rage, Cheated, Vengeful, Disgust, Animosity, Insulted, Envy, Uneasy, Loathe, Offended, Hopeless, Troubled, Embarrassed, Boredom, Wrath, Disapproval, Craving, Unwanted, Outrage, Awkward, Rich, Hatred, Resentment, Lazy, Mean, Hatred, Cranky, Grumpy, Aggressive, Body Dysmorphia, Horror, Vigilant, Vibrant, Pity, Cruel, Gone, Bullied, Mania, Eating Disorder, Protective, Uncomfortable, Adored, Invincible, Worthy, Poor, Religious, Empowered, Exiled, Resentful, Disgust, Delirious, Denial, Obsessed, Defensive, Destructive, Peaceful, Ecstatic, Lively, Exuberant, Wanted, Loyal, Curious, Tranquil, War, Worthless, Impatient, Sleepy, Passion, Zesty, Magical along with any other words I failed to mention. It's ok. You are not alone.
Part VI: It's that time of year
"When your lips get dry, is there anything more frantic?"-Emily Weiss 12/01/2020
The holiday season is here and it is defiantly feeling different. No holiday parties. No date nights in the many decorated establishments that glitter with lights and cheer. We are forced to find it elsewhere.
As J.L. Byrd continues to follow guidelines recommended during COVID-19, we continue to be thankful and grateful for the outpour of support and loyalty. Though it all feels different, this doesn't warrant us to not take care ourselves.
As the season changes, some (I included) will encounter dry scalp issues. Two of my favorite go to's are Briogeo Scalp Massager and Christophe Robin's Cleansing Purifying Scrub with Sea Salt
Sometimes I use them together and other times I use them separately. When my scalp is in need during such dry times, this helps the exfoliation process along.
If used together, start on wet hair, apply quarter size of Christophe Robin Cleaning Purifying Scrub with Sea Salt. Lather then massage into your scalp with the Briogeo Scalp Massager. Follow with conditioner of choice. If separately, use the Christophe Robin Cleaning Purifying Scrub with Sea Salt as your shampoo followed with your conditioner of choice. If you feel you need the extra exfoliation, incorporate the Briogeo Scalp Massager. Also note "the Briogeo Scalp Massager can be used alone on a dry scalp or paired with shampoo, oil, or treatment for a massage therapy experience in or out of the shower." P.S. If you are a no-poo fanatic like me, this can be incorporated into your no-poo lifestyle.
Season's Greetings and continued thanks from all of us at J.L.Byrd
Part V: You don't own me
"The way to right wrongs is to turn the light of truth upon them.” - Ida B. Wells 11/01/2020
Part IV: Fairest of the Seasons
"My mother told me to be a lady. And for her, that meant be your own person, be independent." -R.B. Ginsberg 10/01/2020
Summer has ended. A forgotten time when our hair would absorb the flirtatious rays of the sun. Those endless summers.... the summers of yore.
One noticeable difference with this forgotten summer is the new rituals we are embracing. "Your hair feels amazing! What are you doing differently?" I ask in sheer joy. "I stopped shampooing everyday." My cosmetologist dreams have been answered!
Since the beginning of my career I have been a dedicated "no poo" junky. Your hair does not need daily shampooing as this can cause issues like dryness, brittleness, over proteinized tendrils and loss of shine and luster but not limited to. On top of that, if you color your hair, shampooing everyday can make your color fade quicker!
What is refreshing to know is that your hair can be trained to embrace this new no poo lifestyle. Hey, I workout everyday and still enjoy being a no poo enthusiast. Just rinsing, exfoliating my scalp and putting a finishing oil in my hair has an uptown finish with a downtown approach.
I would recommend if you want to try this, start by alternating your shampoo with conditioner. Day One: Shampoo normally. Day Two: Use a little conditioner on your scalp and exfoliate. Rinse and style as usual. Day Three: Shampoo normally and so on and so forth until you are able to start rinsing in-between shampoos vs using conditioner on your scalp. Be patient. This will not be an over-night miracle but a little patience added to the process will make the experience less frustrating when you have those "bad hair days".
Part III: New Beginnings
"Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind."-B. Lee 9/1/2020
The fleeting of that warm summer breeze and the subtle change of temperatures; September has arrived with a soft welcome in NYC.
The industry is still reeling from the new normal. September issues are coming out yet the fashion industry is still at a halt. Should we adjust our look with the season? What is the season of quarantine?
Beauty is evolving. We cannot unsee these changes. As we have continued into the new normal, a noticeable amount of color requests have been evolving. Such services, including but not limited to, are grey/gray blends/reductions, less chemical use, brightness, tonal adjustments and highlight changes... the sudden need for change is real. Why is this urge to Phoenix out so strong?
The current affairs that we are continually seeing unfold daily are not within our control. The decision to change your hair, or keep it the same, is your own. You trust your hairstylist, we appreciate that, yet have made the choice. It can be incredibly freeing.
Some of these choices involving your hair, such as hair loss, growing out chemical adjustments, internal change and more, can also not be within your control. We are here to support and embrace the best you while this is occurring. Your hairdresser might be more than just someone who attends to your hair needs. They might have experience in these fields, have other clients that have through it, or they themselves have knowledge on the topic.
Part II: The Norm
Isn't it pretty to think so?" -E. Hemingway 8/1/2020
We have entered the new normal. The beauty industry has defiantly felt a shift and not in a cosmic awakening that most of us relish in. With the hot topics of the modern world shaping or reshaping our opinions, where (or should I ask how) does the beauty industry organically and responsibly embrace this new normal?
Within our education, whether the first day of our cosmetology career or within the however many plus years behind the chair, we are informed of what is appropriate chair talk and inappropriate chair talk. Everything is deemed appropriate except these three topics… Politics, Religion, and Sex. Yes, these are the three things that we have been taught that we can’t (or shouldn’t) discuss.
While some of us run to the salon to get away from our daily lives including the current air of topics, some of us love nothing more than to discuss, debate, ask for advice or just vent about said topics but not limiting to. Where do these lines start to blur, in particular if it comes down to how one’s beliefs might be viewed as controversial.
What can be deemed appropriate and inappropriate? Is it just that we keep our conversations, even taboo, to a murmur? What if such topics affected the culture in which we spend most of our time in? When you sit in our chair, when we walk into our “salon space” ourselves, there is a connection. Shouldn’t your hairdresser and salon be a safe space?
Opinions vary, as they will continue to but one thing we can all agree upon; Always know your audience.
Part I: the intro
Out of the Chair, into the blog 7/1/2020
Hello and welcome to Conversations in the Chair; A place where beauty evolves the norms towards paths unknown.
Observation. I found the beauty industry to be more exclusive than inclusive. The barriers that appeared were all based on something; race, age, gender, looks, likes... you name it. An industry that should be welcoming to all, professionals and non professionals alike (hello! these lovely humans need us and our expertise!), seemed to be closing doors for those that didn't fit "the mold”. (This statement might sound familiar.)
Stories and moments, ideas and life are shared in the chairs that I have and continue to stand behind/beside or right in front; sometimes sans chair. Our journeys can be vastly different or very similar. Conversations in the Chair might sound like someone else’s story. A story might sound like a broken record as you may have heard something like it before. Conversations in the Chair is about sharing the beauty within theses beautiful moments while enhancing our outermost.
My name is Lindsay Loo. I am a Wella Advanced Educated Color Expert and Renegade stylist located in the heart of New York City. My career has taken me all over the world with one thing in common, how can I (we) make the beauty experience more beautiful? The journey led me to realizing it didn’t stop at hair. It was the human experience. Connecting. Learning. All of it.
I am not sure where this blog is going to take us. It is the start of something that we will have to let grow, evolve and bloom into what it wants to be. All I know is I am here to share stories, experiences, beauty tips, beauty advice and how our journey’s connects us.
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